Before Walking Down The Aisle.

Sometime last year, we had just finished having a class in my church where we prepare intending couples for marriage (Premarital Class). It was time for contributions, questions and answers. Participants shared ideas, opinions and values. A young man shared his views about makeup, he told us he does not like makeup. According to him, his wife will not use makeup. Wife to be was sitting right beside him with beautiful makeup on her face. I reminded him that the person he intends to marry has makeup on her face at the moment. He said all that will stop once she becomes his wife. His fiancee was very shocked to hear this as he never mentioned it to her in their three years of courtship.

One of the greatest mistake you will make in life is to marry someone with a habit or habits you do not like with the hope of changing him/her after marriage. The right time to seek change to any unhealthy attitude you’re not comfortable with is now that you’re still courting. The essence of courtship is to study the person you intend to spend the rest of your life with. If you find any character you do not like, please talk about it, you can actually help your partner to change and choose the right path by helping him/her to seek intervention, but you can’t force him/her to change. If it’s something you cannot deal with, please take a walk and check the next door. Do not put yourself under perpetual agony and bitterness trying to force change on someone who is not willing to change.

And instead of wasting your time and energy in forcing someone to change, why not go for the exact person that fits your description of idle spouse? You don’t like women that use makeup, Dear Brother, there are so many beautiful women out there who don’t use makeup, go look for them. Dear Sister, smoking is a habit, if smokers are not your spec, leave him alone, don’t frustrate his life. If you choose to remain with him, it means you can cope with that lifestyle of smoking.

©️Charity Odu Walking Down The Aisle

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  1. This was my favorite path of the article “but you can’t force him/her to change. If it’s something you cannot deal with, please take a walk and check the next door. Do not put yourself under perpetual agony and bitterness trying to force change on someone who is not willing to change.”

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